We all find the time to take good care of others, so why is it so difficult to treat yourself the same way? That’s not to say that you should neglect people in your life or act selfish, but just like you care for and love other people, you deserve the same attitude towards yourself! You spend all the time with yourself, so why not start treating yourself with love and respect? In the end, the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder you’ll be to others as well. It’s high time you empathize with your own thoughts and feelings a little. After all, “The greatest gift you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo
Don’t run away from getting to know yourself better
“Be yourself; everyone is already taken” – Oscar Wilde
Your existence is a gift to the world and you should be aware of that. In the end, no one can replace you in the lives of your friends and family. So why should you ever want to replace yourself? A lot of the time, people tend to get lost in these dark thoughts about not being good enough, but what exactly deserves such high standards? Instead of contemplating the point of your existence, take time to truly feel and understand your inner self. Pay attention to how you react, things that make you sad, things that make you happy, and embrace your emotions. Who you are now is the only thing that matters for you. Knowing yourself at the present moment is key to improving yourself and becoming more loving and kinder in the future.
Forgive yourself and move on
Everyone makes mistakes. There’s no denying it. If you think about it, there are probably tons of people who made the same mistakes that you did. This is just the process of learning, and the fact that you’re actually beating yourself up over something you did means that you’re on the right track to better yourself and your reactions. This just goes to show that you accept something as a mistake. All that’s left for you to do is to let it go. Past cannot be changed, but if you continuously tie yourself to past mistakes, you won’t be able to show yourself or the world how much you have grown and learned. A gift of forgiveness and second chance matters only if it comes from you.
It’s perfectly fine to start anew
“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
No one is happy all the time. You have the right to feel sad. However, that doesn’t mean that you should start defining your life with the sadness you feel. One end doesn’t mean the end of everything else. Every day is a new chance to start something new and beautiful. For instance, end of one romantic relationship doesn’t mean that you have to say goodbye to all other opportunities for love. Quite the contrary. Give yourself the time you need to get better, but remember, an open and kind soul will always attract the right match. After all, failed relationships are also part of the learning process, and you can endure it – because something like that is just a bump on the road meant to teach you to look better.
Make time for yourself
You are the singular most important person in your world! Remember, you are writing the book of your life so don’t have anyone else be a protagonist in your own story but you. Life is not all about work and doing favors to others if that’s not something that fulfills you. It’s OK to cut down your to-do lists. It’s perfectly fine to say no when you don’t want to do something. There’s no reason to push yourself into situations that clearly feel uncomfortable for you. Guess what, no one will hate you and the world won’t end if you’re honest with yourself and others. After all, you deserve to spend quality time with yourself, for yourself – just like everybody else does. Pulitzer prize–winning writer John Updike, author of 51 books, attributes his astonishing productivity to a schedule that honors empty time. “Ideally,” he explains, “much of my day should be, in a strict sense, idle, for it is often in idle moments that real inspiration comes.”
Allow yourself to be patient
Nothing can happen overnight. Do you remember learning to ride a bike or to swim the first time you tried? Of course not! When you’re patient with learning about your own needs and expressing your own emotions without fear, success will slowly come. Just like baby steps are necessary on a fitness journey, baby steps are a must when you put your true self as a final goal. Changing oneself and realizing that betterment is more than possible are things that can be challenging. Don’t kid yourself that something like this is a walk in the park. To be kind, patient and mindful is a process, and the more you practice it on yourself, the more it will reflect in your relationships with other people, as well.
“You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.” – Unknown